TAKE IT EASY

Self reminder:

Above all
TAKE IT EASY
..
NO MATTER WHAT
because NOT taking it easy
is part of the problem.

Cognotive bias...

That's the real problem.
Although I am pretty sure it's also an evolutionary solution to many biological, social problems. Hehe.

criticism

You know how people sometimes forget that your criticism is meant constructivily, but just plainly saying that just doesn't do the trick anymore? Try this one for once. I like it and I think it re-"enables".

Sandwich every bit of criticism between two thick layers of praise.

The paradox of choice

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The consequences of priorities or how my girlfriend stole my last quality.

Domestic chaos is a real-life practice towards a peaceful mind. :-)

Our mezzanine

Took me 3 mandays, but I am proud of it. Check Pilly meditating on it, :-).

If you want to see her laughing, check here for one more shot.

(Notice my lovely clown. One of those things I can't depart from.)

Our new dogs - Lisa & Pruts

Well, finally we got over it and decided to spend our weekly drinking money on 2 dogs from the asylum. Here you see "Pruts", saying "Get this camera out of my face!!".

See Lisa and more here on flickr.

Doctors!!!

Another one of those problems out here that I have found more and more compelling as well as frustrating in my life as well as for the whole world is that doctors of today seem not really concerned with their patients anymore, when practicing their profession rather focusing on symptom treatment and "pills" (so to speak) than the causes and real health or well being of the patient. Also that they are weigh too much focused on the money they "deserve" and the competition (do I smell another form of my favorite word conformism in the latter?). I have had a lot of discussions with some medicine students (not coincidently), and though I thought a lot of them wouldn't come out for it, I was surprised to learn that a lot of them dó admit that (the promise of) money is a big part in their decision to study medicines!!
Of course it's not merely doctors, but the whole health care institution that is becoming more and more of a profiting "machine".
I have several stories about all of what I said above, this in my own experience, but this will maybe be for another time. Still, it has been on my mind so much lately that I can sometimes crawl up the walls from this surrealistic (be it natural evolved) situation! Now, coincidently, Toob, a very positive and active friend of mine, passed along a movie. Having watched it, I learned that there is even a strong and true story about this and still a somewhat famous, though successful person around that is actually trying to address these problems!! The movie is called Patch Adams (film) (Official site), the real guy Hunter Campbell "Patch" Adams (Official website) and one of his projects, the Gesundheit! Institute (Official Website). (My what-probably-would-be prejudice being surprised to find such a strong and outspoken person in the U.S.!)

This "phenomenon" is another reason to strive for a much more equally divided world (be it money, resources, health care, environment, -..). You see, who else than the "real" doctors would come forward if doctors wouldn't earn such a lot of money all of a sudden? (Just as with politicians.) And I am not saying that doctors deserve no merit at all, but doesn't being a "better" person (as doctors like to portray themselves, nonetheless must have some qualities that allow them to pass their studies) also comes with a higher responsability?
There are some good doctors out there, of course, I am just referring to the majority of doctors, at least in my and my environment's experience.

Waarom kunnen we niet leven in vrede met onszelf?

Volgens Prof. Johan Mertens:

We zijn een soort met een heel grote generatietijd. We doen er twintig jaar over om de volgende generatie op de wereld te zetten. Mussen hebben daar maar één jaar voor nodig. We zijn echter begonnen aan een heel snelle culturele ontwikkeling, maar hebben ons daar biologisch niet kunnen aan aanpassen.

I agree! :-)

Nog ideeën die ik treffend vondt:

• Je leven geven om je broertje uit het vuur te redden, heldendaad? Helemaal niet, genenverspreiding of "ingebakken genetisch egoïsme".
  Je geeft jouw genen veel meer door, dan wanneer je je eigen hachje zou redden. (Wiskundige berekening in zijn boek).
• Onze samenleving is altijd matriarchaal geweest, m.a.w. vrouwen waren aan de macht (ze zijn ook veel sterker), tot voor kort (sinds we landbouwers werden, wat genetisch helemaal niet lang geleden is).
• Spermashopping: Vrouwen hebben nog altijd biologisch de touwtjes in handen. Net zoals zangvogels: Een (ouder) mannetje zoeken voor het nestje en gezin te onderhouden, en als alles goed is, zo snel mogelijk vreemd gaan met een goed ogende, jong mannetje en natuurlijk zonder medeweten van haar jaloerse echtgenoot (en tijdens haar vruchtbare periode).
  Een mannetje kan ook nooit weten van wie zijn vrouwtje zwanger is. Vandaar de basis van biologisch mannelijke jaloezie.
  

Van zaadcel tot liefde (Johan Mertens)

Enkele basis trainingsregels naar de verlichting (To Complete ; Dutch)

10 kusala dhamma's (kusala = vaardig) -- 5 trainingsregels

1 Handelen

1 .. metta
2 .. ..
3 .. tevredenheid

2 Spreken

4 onwaarh. vermijden
5 niet roddelen harmonie
6 ruwe taal vriendelijk / aangenaam
7 leeg zwetsen behartenswaardig

3 Handelen in de geest

8 brandende begeerte sereniteit
9 kwade wil mededogen
10 verkeerde visies (rationalisatie) wijsheid

5 Geest niet benevelen

Alle licht aan (Dutch)

Volgend gedicht vond ik zo mooi dat ik dit wil bewaren en delen.
Ik versta het wel telkens op een andere manier. Raar.
Eerst denk ik aan rust en stilte in de geest te bereiken zonder afleidingen en niet toegeven aan teleurstelende lusten en op een andere manier genieten (het echte licht).
Dan weer denk ik hetzelfde, maar door zich erin te smijten, door je ogen eraan te verblinden..
Soit, heeft alleszins een "Laat mij uit deze kooi" weerklank bij mij.

Alle licht aan

Besnij m’n ogen en bind ze
aan het licht, ik wil staren
naar wat me verblindt.

Laat me zien
waarheen ik vlucht: te veel vlees
heeft mij gegeten en liefde
bleek lucht. Vooral beroemd
om haar geur.

Aan. Doe mij
alle licht aan.

(Stijn Vranken)

Courage - saying

The one person with courage is a majority.

Thomas Jefferson

Bravery, courage

Courageous are those that help others against one's own cravings and restful state.

Cravings of laziness, feelings to keep one's own well-being and peace, feelings of greed and greed for a stable and prosperous life. Brave are those that know it all too well, yet still fight against them.

One must also consider the other truth that does nót goes against this: To help others, you must care for yourself. You must make yourself efficient in helping and not neglect your own health in body and spirit.

So, if you are brave ánd bright, balance and perfecting the balance is what you seek.

Buddha said one of my favorite truths. He knew the truth in the "Golden Path", the middle path, the balanced one.

One of the reasons of my spilling these guts of mine, is surely an understanding in my disbalance and writing is guiding my spirit.

Fcuk the oredr!!

Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at an Elingsh uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht frist and lsat ltteer is at the rghit pclae. The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae we do not raed ervey lteter by itslef but the wrod as a wlohe.